Happy Valentine’s Day! Paint a new canvas of LOVE.
No matter what you have been through in your past relationships, today is a new day. Your relationship, or the one you hope to find, deserves some nurturing; start today by planting new seeds with intention, and begin with a clean slate on a new canvas of LOVE.
What you are seeking in another is also what you are now ready to offer and the same can be applied with what the other is seeking.
Relationships do not come with resumes and references, unless you are on a comprehensive dating website. And even then, if one or both have not done the inner work required for lasting change, it doesn’t matter what it looks like on paper, it it will eventually show up in the entire picture. Perhaps it is time to plants some new and refreshing seeds for a future of lasting LOVE.
Engaging in honest conversations about your past relationships, and the role you each may have played in the demise of the relationships, is important to some people; it is vital, though, that you talk about what you have learned from the past and what you will do differently in the future – in the present. There should be acknowledgement and accountability taken of how each person contributed to the good and the bad, in some form, thus knowing how the negative will not be repeated.
Listen to the honest answers when someone tells you their truth. Be sure it is part of the picture that you would like to create on your canvas of life. Honest and vulnerable conversations that create lasting connection is like growing strong strong roots for healthy growth. It is also just as, or more powerful, than any Kama Sutra. Create a new picture and plant some new seeds with intention on this very special Valentine’s Day.
Today’s questions and sentences to finish:
What have you learned about yourself from your past relationships and this relationship? What will you do differently next time? If you are a victim of past abuse, what will you promise to do differently now that you have the wisdom you have gained?
I know that I contributed to the demise of a relationship by:
I hope that the people coming into my life do not need to worry about my past history of:
A positive change I have made is:
I know I must continue to work on:
I expect those who become important people in my life to have worked on:
I have learned that in a close relationship I need:
From now on, in a deep conversation with someone I am becoming close to, one question I will ask is:
And the answer I need to hear is:
If you want to be really adventurous, purchase a large, body sized, canvas and purchase some washable paints and physically paint a new canvas of LOVE with your Valentine.