Seven steps to turning rejection into redirection
Rejection is one of the most difficult experiences a human can face. But, if we change how we look at rejection, the experience can be turned into a positive new-beginning, instead of another shameful-ending.
When a child stumbles or fails there is usually some sort of parental-blame, but that is just part of the child’s calling for help and the parents’ striving to see where they can do better. The best a parent can do is be there for the child, clear some obstacles out of the way and provide some tools. It is then up to the child to make the true effort for improvement.
This is similar to how God or Spirit works: clearing obstacles and throwing ropes.
Rejection is like hitting a wall and there is not choice but to look around for new directions. Allow yourself time to heal, while remembering and acknowledging that with every loss there always comes some sort of freedom.
The stages of grieving, which are part of the steps to the new-beginning, were written out for us over 2000 years ago during the ultimate redirection.
The sayings of Jesus on the Cross (Seven Last Words from the Cross) are seven expressions that Jesus is reputed to have said during His crucifixion. The sayings are gathered from the four gospels, Mathew, Mark, Luke, and John. Although the order varies, what matters is the meaning and the message each phrase has to teach us about surrendering to a new beginning.
“Eli, Eli lama sabachthani.” (Mathew 27:46; Mark 15:34)
“Father, forgive them; for they do not know what they are doing.” (Luke 23:34)
“Truly I say to you, today you should be with Me in Paradise.” (Luke 23:43)
“Father, into Your hands I commit My spirit.” (Luke 23:46)
“Woman, behold your son!” Then He said to the disciple, “Behold your mother!” (John 19:26–27)
“I am thirsty.” (John 19:28)
“It is finished.” (John 19:30)
Surrender that heavy cross of shame and sadness you are carrying and look forward to the day you will rise again with your new-beginning. In the meantime, bring out this page or write down these words and allow yourself the grace to:
Feel anger, frustration, and disappointment as you ask God why He has forsaken you, “Eli, Eli, lama sabachthani?”
Seek forgiveness. What do you need to learn, what change do you need to make?
Forgive. Realize the humanness in others.
Acknowledge that you were not living in peace, and that peace is what you truly desire; it is where your spirit longs to reside, and how you will be your best.
Begin to make requests and express hope for the future. Plant new seeds as you open up to new possibilities.
Feel and take care of your body, nourish and replenish your dreams.
It is finished. Surrender, and prepare to rise or begin again, walking in a whole new redirection.